Everyone has to start somewhere, right? So, for me, here it is. My son was in a horrible car accident 1 year ago on May 9. Yes, it was hard and trying, full of tears, fear, and eventually relief and pride for all he overcame, but during that time it also took me to a place of not really feeling like I had been appreciative of the life I had been given. I felt like maybe I had missed, along the way, what my purpose was. It's hard to tell your 16 year old child that their life has a purpose when you hadn’t even found yours.
So, after going through months of his recovery being a large part of our life (while preparing for our daughter to leave for college, another story for another day), I started trying to find my way back into a normal life. Even though I have a very fulfilling life, amazing career with owning a real estate company with my husband, a great marriage, and wonderful kids, I felt something was missing in me. I had missed something along the way that I needed to do. Needed to open my eyes. Needed to listen to that small voice saying “You have more to give. Don’t be selfish."
That was hard, and then you have to ask yourself, does anyone really care what I have to offer? But in the end, if I can help one person, that is enough. So here I am opening up my life as an over 40 woman, hoping that just one thing from this blog will be of use to another woman over 40. It doesn’t matter if you are a stay at home or working mother (I’ve done both), or even a mother, wife or not, work or not work, that isn’t what this is about. This is about all women! Here’s the thing, I want this to be interactive. At 46, about to be 47, there is still a lot I don’t know and won’t pretend to. I lost my mom when I was 40, so I don’t even have her to look to guidance from. I have no doubt you all have been through life changes I haven’t yet seen, so help me help others like us. This isn’t just for those of us in our 40s (hence the “and More”). I want to see this grow as we grow, both in age and topics. Who knows, maybe in twenty years when I am almost 67, we are still helping women as they go into those dreamy 40s. THIS is about the changes we have to overcome as women 40 and over, so welcome to 40 and More! I hope you simply enjoy it and occasionally even laugh, cry, or just smile because you think to yourself “Yep, that’s me!” We can’t stop the aging, so might as well make the best of it together, right?